“The Talk” - March 14, 2016
Having a terminal/fatal disease affects not just the one with the disease, but spouses, family, friends, coworkers, etc.
Since I have put my faith and trust in the One who foretold of his death & resurrection - AND THEN IT HAPPENED JUST AS HE SAID! - I believe that my future home (and ultimate destination) is heaven.
As the apostle Paul stated, it is better by far to be with Jesus (in heaven) - so I’ll be just fine! J
It’s my wife and family’s loss that grieves me now.
Since my condition is progressive, I will never get better. A double-lung transplant is the only medical option for living longer.
This weighs heavy on my wife.
She knows me so well that she can tell when I’m ‘doing worse’ - even when I don’t necessarily notice.
She believes I’m worse today than I was a month ago. I have a CT scan and other pulmonary function tests coming up in a couple weeks, so we’ll have more of a definitive outlook after we get the results.
But this prompted “the talk”…the conversation that needs to take place regarding what happens “IF” I don’t survive. Finances, other logistics, what do I want my memorial service to be like?, etc.
You see, while I’ll be rejoicing in heaven, my wife (and family) will be struggling with life without a “Boppy” in it. J
Having lost my Dad 18 months ago, I can relate to the loss…but I’ve never lost a spouse.
It’s difficult for me to imagine losing my wife. In our almost 14 years together, we have done so much. We’ve been to Africa (5 times!), Russia (Moscow & Siberia), Italy (Milan, Verona & Rome), London (3 times), Paris, Amsterdam, Honduras, Canada (Banff, Lake Louise), an Alaska cruise, Hawaii, NYC, Philly, New Orleans, D.C., and many other wonderful places! We’ve lived many lifetimes over in just a few short years.
I can’t imagine living without my soul mate!
She will need prayer, encouragement and moral support once I’m gone.
BUT - I’m not giving up hope! Hope for healing, hope for a transplant, hope for a long life ahead with my incredible wife! In fact, our goal is to be married longer than we were to our previous spouses…so I plan to be around at least another 8 years!