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Monday, March 14, 2016

“The Talk” - March 14, 2016

Having a terminal/fatal disease affects not just the one with the disease, but spouses, family, friends, coworkers, etc.
Since I have put my faith and trust in the One who foretold of his death & resurrection - AND THEN IT HAPPENED JUST AS HE SAID! - I believe that my future home (and ultimate destination) is heaven.
As the apostle Paul stated, it is better by far to be with Jesus (in heaven) - so I’ll be just fine! J
It’s my wife and family’s loss that grieves me now.
Since my condition is progressive, I will never get better. A double-lung transplant is the only medical option for living longer.

This weighs heavy on my wife.
She knows me so well that she can tell when I’m ‘doing worse’ - even when I don’t necessarily notice.
She believes I’m worse today than I was a month ago. I have a CT scan and other pulmonary function tests coming up in a couple weeks, so we’ll have more of a definitive outlook after we get the results.
But this prompted “the talk”…the conversation that needs to take place regarding what happens “IF” I don’t survive. Finances, other logistics, what do I want my memorial service to be like?, etc.
You see, while I’ll be rejoicing in heaven, my wife (and family) will be struggling with life without a “Boppy” in it. J
Having lost my Dad 18 months ago, I can relate to the loss…but I’ve never lost a spouse.
It’s difficult for me to imagine losing my wife. In our almost 14 years together, we have done so much.  We’ve been to Africa (5 times!), Russia (Moscow & Siberia), Italy (Milan, Verona & Rome), London (3 times), Paris, Amsterdam, Honduras, Canada (Banff, Lake Louise), an Alaska cruise, Hawaii, NYC, Philly, New Orleans, D.C., and many other wonderful places! We’ve lived many lifetimes over in just a few short years.
I can’t imagine living without my soul mate! 

She will need prayer, encouragement and moral support once I’m gone. 

BUT - I’m not giving up hope! Hope for healing, hope for a transplant, hope for a long life ahead with my incredible wife! In fact, our goal is to be married longer than we were to our previous spouses…so I plan to be around at least another 8 years!


  1. Continuing to pray for healing or transplant. Our hope is in the Lord and He KNOWS how much you are loved and needed here. Praying for miracles! Hugs to you all.

  2. Thanks Bro., for breaking my Heart just now, and for being my Friend in the here and now, and the forever after. You know Big Daddy; it only takes a text to get me(and mine) On Point, please impress that upon Debbie for me..

    1. Love you, brother!
      Do you still have the same phone #? (508........)

  3. Steve. From the time you were a teenager, you have worked through your life with faith. It is so obvious that you are loved and treasured by your friends and family now and i know you know that those of us who grew up with you also love and treasure you. I just know that it is going to be as it should be. I am praying for a lung transplant because why wouldnt I?? I am also praying for healing. I am also praying for courage and strength for you and Debbie. For your kids and grandkids. For all the people for whom your life has great meaning and preciousness. including me. God is with you. So as on earth as it is in heaven brother.